However, when discussing friendship, we must address the gender issue — a high-profile issue nowadays. Accordingly to personal observation, there is a fact that males are more easier to maintain long-term high-quality friendships with other males; the only problem is that the threshold is high, requiring mutual acknowledgment for the things they value. Whereas, for females, the threshold is low, but it’s hard to maintain long-term or high-quality friendships.
Based on the obvious outcome, it’s very hard for an independent and professional-oriented female to have a friendship. Firstly, female friendships are often based on emotional support through sharing. Secondly, there are only rare females whose pursuit is their own profession, let alone pushing their pursuit to another level. Thirdly, such a connection is easily influenced by the outside variables, like their partner. For an independent and professional-oriented female, they can easily make friends with anyone, but are incapable of maintaining a friendship if their basic values have no echo. In short, females can rarely be on the same level as them.
Then, how about friendship with males who value their profession? Technically, it is mutually attractive. However, there is another issue that is almost impossible to ignore — the boundary. Where is the boundary for a friendship and an ambiguous relationship? What if the other holds a different view on it? How to make it clear? And so on.
As there are lots of points that have to be noticed, if this female just wants a normal friendship, but she has to deal with lots of unnecessary problems under invisible pressure, then it’s better to be alone, even if it means no friends to share valuable thoughts.
Normal friends are enough for survival. Acquaintances can also bring simple happiness.
There is no need to waste your time with social activities, which means no extra time specifically for those who you’re not appreciated by currently or who you still feel pressure from. Don’t consume your energy just for politeness.
Additionally, only people who are at the same level as you can establish a friendship. If there is not, leave it empty.